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Brandy's avatar

My husband owns a diesel repair ship after 25 years of working as a diesel tech. He has had cuts, bruises, stitches, skin chunks removed. We both grew up in lower middle class homes, so we've both been in fights, especially in our youth. We decided to raise our boys in better circumstances and we did, but I won't lie when I say I'd be worried about them in a fight.

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Frank Lee's avatar

Great observations.

Hard times create strong men that create good times that create weak men that create hard times. We are living in the age of weak men creating hard times for everyone. It won't be until those hard times leak into their lives that the weak men will become strong.

It seems to me that optimum human capability and capacity requires walking a razor's edge of struggle that on one side is debilitating trauma and the other side is facilitating growth. People are born with some level of innate coping capability (the sensitive child that only needs a look from a parent to cause them to melt, vs the child that need a sharp smack on the behind to get their attention), but coping skills can be learned... excess sensitivity and vulnerability are constraining maladies that should be resolved in a lifetime. But if not presented with enough real life struggle there is not enough opportunity to grow coping skills. And then I think the vulnerable narcissist evolves from that as basic human interactions that should be considered normal and acceptable cause overheated emotions of harm and resentment.

This is a great example from a Jordan Peterson interview. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qTk-69f64KU

This female in the audience is the epitome of a vulnerable narcissist. Peterson asks "Do you think you are worse off than your grandparents?" Look at her reaction when Peterson explains that she, like her peers, avoid their personal growth needs by adopting pseudo moralistic stances on large-scale social issues that look good to their friends and neighbors.

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