Just her "ex-bisexual" identity is the stuff of "hey, look at me... ain't I special" signaling.
If you think about a simple tribal society, which we humans are still in close evolutionarily proximity to, the children would get their behavior ordered by adults that previously had their behavior ordered. There is a process of development... a gauntlet of discipline and praise... that causes children to advance to a point of acceptable behavior based on the wisdom of history developed by the tribe.
With technology, we severed the tribal process and replaced it with electronic groupthink... where the children hang with other children and come up with their own "wisdom" of behavior. But there isn't an easy way to do a course correction once these disordered people become adults.
I have a theory that everyone is narcissistic. We all pursue self-interest primarily. The difference comes down to behavior... how we regulate ourselves to fit into society in a way that we feel accepted. Social media enables people to behave terribly.. and the likes and followers gives them positive feedback for behaving terribly. I think the tonic to that is to blast them on social media for their terrible behavior.
Hilariously, he was probably just being polite, but she seized on his compliments as proof of her vast superiority. She has a shitty personality and she’s ugly, so she needs something.
I feel this started with the over expansion of college education in the ‘70s. I couldn’t believe 17 and 18 year olds were left to raise themselves even then. Obviously social media brought it to meltdown point.
Wow, this is really insightful. I was a single guy until I was 36 and for some reason struggled to keep up with the bills. I probably let too much $$ slip through my fingers but ... for the longest time I had a brown sofabed I had purchased from a divorced friend for $50. It had orange and green racing stripes. Maybe enough of my mom's frugality wore off on me but when I got my first apartment all to myself I had it slipcovered instead of buying a new one at Macy's. But I always complimented the apartments of the women I dated: They all seemed so much more put together and tidy. Back in those pre-social media days they were gracious about it. I'd unfriend that ex-bisexual in a millisecond.
It is terrifying to post anything online knowing people like this are out there, keeping score in a delusional game. Americans like to share too much about themselves, by nature. And we think that everyone should care. Europeans do not, by custom, ask or ask for personal things about you in transactions. Try just saying hello to an American instead of asking how they are when buying something. It throws them off.
American 1: Hi, how are you?
American 2: I am good. How are you?
American 1: Not so good. My transmission just blew out on my Chevy. That's good that you're good. Do you have a good IPA?
American 2: My transmission just went out too. Do you know someone good? We have a good selection of craft beer.
America 1: Yes, my cousin is an awesome mechanic. I'll have a Samuel Jackson!
American 2: I'll need to take your card and keep it to open a tab. I'll be right back.
I followed the Edward Teach link (btw - wasn't the real name of Blackbeard the pirate?). I still don't understand why anyone has to destroy another's happiness, but that's a great analysis on the mechanisms of enviers' behavior.
This kind of web interaction based on approval and comments was initiated by the news outlets like Yahoo News. Many of their news invite to comments that are one-sided and quite acid in nature. More of the bias this is the result of programming the algorithms of the channel.
Many of the offenders migrate to YouTube where they can even express even obvious propaganda-like lies, The Mal-information is becoming more prevalent than the usual Dis-information or Mis-information. The only way for us to preserve the peace of mind is not being part of the wave of irrelevant information found on Facebook-like webs.
The question should be - Can I live without any of these outlets? Personally, two years ago,I stopped reading Yahoo News after they rejected my non-leftist comments. Years ago, I closed my Facebook account and I survived without their "connection" to the world.
Just her "ex-bisexual" identity is the stuff of "hey, look at me... ain't I special" signaling.
If you think about a simple tribal society, which we humans are still in close evolutionarily proximity to, the children would get their behavior ordered by adults that previously had their behavior ordered. There is a process of development... a gauntlet of discipline and praise... that causes children to advance to a point of acceptable behavior based on the wisdom of history developed by the tribe.
With technology, we severed the tribal process and replaced it with electronic groupthink... where the children hang with other children and come up with their own "wisdom" of behavior. But there isn't an easy way to do a course correction once these disordered people become adults.
I have a theory that everyone is narcissistic. We all pursue self-interest primarily. The difference comes down to behavior... how we regulate ourselves to fit into society in a way that we feel accepted. Social media enables people to behave terribly.. and the likes and followers gives them positive feedback for behaving terribly. I think the tonic to that is to blast them on social media for their terrible behavior.
Hilariously, he was probably just being polite, but she seized on his compliments as proof of her vast superiority. She has a shitty personality and she’s ugly, so she needs something.
I feel this started with the over expansion of college education in the ‘70s. I couldn’t believe 17 and 18 year olds were left to raise themselves even then. Obviously social media brought it to meltdown point.
Wow, this is really insightful. I was a single guy until I was 36 and for some reason struggled to keep up with the bills. I probably let too much $$ slip through my fingers but ... for the longest time I had a brown sofabed I had purchased from a divorced friend for $50. It had orange and green racing stripes. Maybe enough of my mom's frugality wore off on me but when I got my first apartment all to myself I had it slipcovered instead of buying a new one at Macy's. But I always complimented the apartments of the women I dated: They all seemed so much more put together and tidy. Back in those pre-social media days they were gracious about it. I'd unfriend that ex-bisexual in a millisecond.
It is terrifying to post anything online knowing people like this are out there, keeping score in a delusional game. Americans like to share too much about themselves, by nature. And we think that everyone should care. Europeans do not, by custom, ask or ask for personal things about you in transactions. Try just saying hello to an American instead of asking how they are when buying something. It throws them off.
American 1: Hi, how are you?
American 2: I am good. How are you?
American 1: Not so good. My transmission just blew out on my Chevy. That's good that you're good. Do you have a good IPA?
American 2: My transmission just went out too. Do you know someone good? We have a good selection of craft beer.
America 1: Yes, my cousin is an awesome mechanic. I'll have a Samuel Jackson!
American 2: I'll need to take your card and keep it to open a tab. I'll be right back.
European 1: Hello
European 2: Hello, I'll take a Carlsberg
European 1: 6 Euros. Just tab.
I followed the Edward Teach link (btw - wasn't the real name of Blackbeard the pirate?). I still don't understand why anyone has to destroy another's happiness, but that's a great analysis on the mechanisms of enviers' behavior.
This kind of web interaction based on approval and comments was initiated by the news outlets like Yahoo News. Many of their news invite to comments that are one-sided and quite acid in nature. More of the bias this is the result of programming the algorithms of the channel.
Many of the offenders migrate to YouTube where they can even express even obvious propaganda-like lies, The Mal-information is becoming more prevalent than the usual Dis-information or Mis-information. The only way for us to preserve the peace of mind is not being part of the wave of irrelevant information found on Facebook-like webs.
The question should be - Can I live without any of these outlets? Personally, two years ago,I stopped reading Yahoo News after they rejected my non-leftist comments. Years ago, I closed my Facebook account and I survived without their "connection" to the world.
An alternate title of this column could be "Social Media Is Turning You Into an Asshole".
Some folks seem to take social media as license to unleash their inner bully.
When all the world's a stage, that just feeds those with Main Character Syndrome.
Great post
No matter era or ideology they embrace, people like this will be a cancer on their society. That theyve been given a voice is tragic.
How do you know the tweeter was a woman?
She looks like a woman in her photo.