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Justin Ross's avatar

I think you touched on an important problem that most people are not aware of. If someone says something is perfect, you will by definition find it lacking. Because there is no perfect. If someone says they found you the best mates in the entire city, you will expect to be absolutely blown away. But what's more likely is that it'll simply be someone who is good and normal and loving. (Which is rare enough these days.)

Part, or even most, of the beauty is in the surprise. You cannot be surprised or see beauty if you're expecting it. Even demanding it.

Seinfeld told a story about he was introduced onto the stage one time as "the best comedian in the world." And it makes the audience cross their arms and go "oh *really*?" The guy introducing him didn't realize how big a mistake that was.

You can't be funny if people are already demanding that you're funny.

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T Benedict's avatar

“But outsourcing real-world interaction to AI will diminish you. You will learn less about yourself. It will make you a less interesting person, and, ultimately, a less desirable romantic partner.”

This unhappy state of affairs where people actually think having AI do the human work of relationship-building is depressing. It reminds me of a line from Jerry Seinfeld’s Duke commencement address: “Oh, so you can’t do the work?...This seems to be the justification for AI – I couldn’t do it.”

Rob is spot on about how this is yet another way to distance ourselves from authentic human connections and finally believing machines over our own judgement.

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