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Mike Doherty's avatar

I can understand why Rob says that he would have preferred a stable, two-parent family to having earned degrees at prestigious institutions. I was raised in a working class two-parent family. We didn't have much money, but I didn't know. I had a stable environment; I had friends in the neighborhood. I had parents who, though weren't outwardly loving, were, by their actions, loving. My two brothers and I each earned at least one MA degree. One time, I was visiting with one brother, sitting around drinking beer, and he asked me if I ever remembered going out to a restaurant with the family. I paused and thought. I told him that the only time I went out to a sit-down restaurant with the family was the day that I graduated from college. I am the oldest.

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Dan SG's avatar

First of all, I am really happy that Rob's book is recognized in Europe. He deserves it because, nowadays, the damaged family life does not have borders.

On the other hand many cheer up seeing a two parent family like an achievement. The other day I did a sober recounting of the my family generational make-up. Same for my wife's family. I came up with a sad conclusion - my grandparents, on both sides, were a mismatch, my parents were a mismatch and same for my wife's family. Her grandparents and parents were a mismatch. No wander that despite our master degrees in our profession we struggled with the psychological shortcomings due to the upbringing with a lot of twists and turns. It took a gigantic effort for both of us to keep our family together and raise our children properly.

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