"Men tend to overestimate how much women care about physical appearance, while women tend to overestimate how much men care about status cues. Each sex projects its own preferences onto the other, acting on the mistaken belief that the opposite sex values the same things they do."
This makes perfect sense and reflects what I see out in the world among women of my cohort and younger (millennial, professional class). I have often wondered how much men are affected by how "put together" a woman looks. E.g., are cosmetic procedures for attracting men or are they to meet an instagram aesthetic that women compete with each other to reach? Experience tells me that it's likely the latter.
“As living conditions improve, people often become more psychologically susceptible to possible suffering.”
This is what we observed with Covid. Most of the population became overwhelmed by fear, and still is in fear mode (masking, distancing, fear mongering, Nazi Trump, etc, etc)
"PTSD rates are higher in affluent countries than in those with greater adversity and violence" - This makes sense. When you're very poor or when your life is in danger, your mental energy is being used to survive and there's not much left over to ruminate. Even with all the adversity I went through as a child, I distinctly remember not being able to empathize with my freshman year roommate at Yale who was clinically depressed because she was not in any immediate danger and her life seemed perfect. I had never been depressed even though I had lived through much adversity. Years later, depression hit me as I got more comfortable, and I remember apologizing to my former roommate for any insensitive things I said.
"Men tend to overestimate how much women care about physical appearance, while women tend to overestimate how much men care about status cues. Each sex projects its own preferences onto the other, acting on the mistaken belief that the opposite sex values the same things they do."
This makes perfect sense and reflects what I see out in the world among women of my cohort and younger (millennial, professional class). I have often wondered how much men are affected by how "put together" a woman looks. E.g., are cosmetic procedures for attracting men or are they to meet an instagram aesthetic that women compete with each other to reach? Experience tells me that it's likely the latter.
“As living conditions improve, people often become more psychologically susceptible to possible suffering.”
This is what we observed with Covid. Most of the population became overwhelmed by fear, and still is in fear mode (masking, distancing, fear mongering, Nazi Trump, etc, etc)
"PTSD rates are higher in affluent countries than in those with greater adversity and violence" - This makes sense. When you're very poor or when your life is in danger, your mental energy is being used to survive and there's not much left over to ruminate. Even with all the adversity I went through as a child, I distinctly remember not being able to empathize with my freshman year roommate at Yale who was clinically depressed because she was not in any immediate danger and her life seemed perfect. I had never been depressed even though I had lived through much adversity. Years later, depression hit me as I got more comfortable, and I remember apologizing to my former roommate for any insensitive things I said.