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Dr. Paul's avatar

Re: Will Storr quote:

This is because humiliation is the same as Shame and Shame is the opposite of Passion.

Passion is the positive of “libido” the life force, vitality, being alive. The word is only used to describe “survival” or “reproduction”. Therefore it is a synonym for libido, life force, which in males I believe to be masculinity and in females to be femininity.

When people feel these they come alive and can accomplish many things, are generous to others with it and as charismatic, exuberant, and express a happiness that one might call bliss and is contagious to others.

The opposite of this life force is, well, death.

So when humiliated one feels as if threatened with death and feels like starting to die. Which in the animal kingdom often results in a defensive lashing out with deadly, defensive force.

In humans, feels like a withering away of masculinity (or femininity).

The absence of masculinity or femininity is Shame. Whose flip side is Rage.

They are the same psychological force.

The whole story of Medusa and then Perseus teaches us about all this

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John Raisor's avatar

I learned what covert aka vulnerable narcissism is the hard way in 2021, and discovered that I had been surrounded by these types for my first 25 years of life. She reminded me of an ex, and once I learned the details of covert narcissism, I finally made sense of a lifetime of poor romantic choices.

Be very wary of anyone who tries to make you responsible for their emotions. Im vigilant now, but still give the benefit of the doubt until I cant.

Also, vulnerable narcissism drives all of the nonsense we see from the extreme left today. "Why should I change? Im unhappy because of everyone else."

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